Okay, we get it. Moving in with a stranger can be scary. It’s normal to feel that way.
We’ve compiled some questions that other young people have had before moving in to host homes. Read them below. If you have other questions, please feel free to text us at (240) 285-9116.
Are the hosts nice?
The THRIVE! staff spend time with the host families prior to a youth moving in to try to make sure all hosts and family members are nice and welcoming. If this isn’t true, let the staff know and we will work to move you to another family.
What’s the catch?
No catch! We want you to have the space you need to rest and focus on finishing school or saving money. If you’re a good fit for the program, you will work with a case manager and develop your own goals to ensure you can transition out of THRIVE! into self-sufficiency.
During your stay, we do expect you to be in school and/or working. If you are not currently enrolled, but are willing to enroll or participate, you can work on those goals with your case manager.
Will I be able to have friends over?
It depends. Each host has different house boundaries, but most hosts are okay with friends over during the day. The host may want to be home when you have guests over or may just want a heads up. These expectations will be discussed in the match meetings, where you’ll get to meet the host and see their home before moving in.
Are hosts strict?
We see you as an adult and do not have strict guidelines for you. We want you to be engaged in school and/or work. Host families will have similar expectations. Each host does have a set of house boundaries, which will be discussed and agreed to prior to move-in. If someone is too strict for you, the THRIVE! team can work to find someone who is a better fit for you when applicable.
Do I have to do chores for my hosts?
You will be responsible for cleaning up after yourself, in the kitchen, bathroom, common areas, and your own private space. The hosts may ask for you to chip in for other household chores, but those aren’t mandated. It’s just a part of living with someone else!
Will I have any freedoms?
Of course! Again, you are an adult and can maintain many of the same freedoms prior to moving in. We know you may still want to stay out late or overnight. All of this is fine, we just ask you communicate with your host, so they know you’re safe. All of this will be discussed and agreed to in the match meetings.
Will I be safe? Will my belongings be safe?
Our number one priority is to your safety. We do background checks, reference checks, and interviews with prospective hosts before a young person moves in. The hosts should not ever go through your things or bedroom without permission. If you ever feel unsafe or violated, let THRIVE! staff know ASAP and we will move you from the home and terminate our relationship with the host.
Will I move far away?
We try to find a place close to your school or place of work. We will do what we can to keep you as close to the location that makes you feel most comfortable.
What if I don’t like my hosts?
Sometimes when you first move in, you may feel very uncomfortable and feel as if you don’t like the family. If you try it out for a bit and still feel the same way, let THRIVE! staff know, and we can work with you to find a better match. If it feels as if you just need some outside support to make things better, let your case manager know and THRIVE! staff can arrange a conversation with you and the host family.
What if the hosts don’t like me?
Our hosts receive training and support from THRIVE! to make them best able to host a young person in their homes. If you feel like they don’t like you, or you are feeling any hostility, let your case manager know ASAP.
Will my hosts hurt me?
The hosts have no reason to hurt you, either physically or emotionally. Although we try to get to know them ahead of time, we cannot always know how people truly are. If a host ever does hurt you, let THRIVE! know ASAP and we will move you immediately. If it is a dangerous situation, call 911 and your case manager.
What are the restrictions?
All hosts have different house restrictions and we ask both hosts and young folks to agree to those boundaries. Those will be discussed in the match meetings.
The program does not tolerate any violence or weapons in the home. The program also does not allow illegal drug use or underage drinking in the host home. We do understand these are coping strategies for many people yet we must require this stay outside of the host home.
How long will I be there? Is it permanent?
Host homes are transitional, typically ranging from 1-6 months. Your work with your case manager during this time will equip you to transition out of the host home program and into more permanent housing.
Will I have contact with my family and friends?
Can I leave when I want?
You can absolutely leave whenever you want. We do ask you communicate with us and the hosts about your decision but understand if that feels overwhelming at the time.
Are my hosts religious?
Many of our host families may be spiritual or practice religion. That being said, no one’s religious beliefs should be imposed on you. If you ever feel discriminated against because of someone else’s religion, let your case manager know.
Will my hosts feed me?
Yes! Hosts are given a monthly stipend to provide you with groceries during your stay. Some hosts love to cook, others not so much! You’ll have access to the kitchen and can work with your host family to buy food that you prefer.